Need Help With Grumbling and Misbehaving?
Sunday, June 24, 2012 at 5:00AM 
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Over the past several years my children have always enjoyed the "Hermie" movies and books by Max Lucado. Our church had quite a generous stash of them in the library, which I think my children had checked out most of the time!
The latest Hermie DVD, "BEEhaving is B-E-S-T" : Behaving Pleases God! is a new favorite in our home. It consists of two episodes: Buzby the Misbehaving Bee and Buzby and the Grumblebees.
If you're look for QUALITY character education material for your young children (target age is 4-7), our family highly recommends this DVD. When ours arrived in the mail, GMan immediately snagged it and layed on the sofa -- watching and giggling for the next hour.
From the publisher, Tommy Nelson:
In Buzby, the Misbehaving Bee, the garden is all abuzz thanks to its newest resident: Buzby, the self-proclaimed “king of bees,” who refuses to follow any of the Garden Golden Rules. Soon Buzby has managed to bug every citizen of the garden—and Hermie and his pals don’t know what to do. But through an unexpected act of kindness (not to mention some intervention from the real King of the garden), Buzby finally learns that nobody is too cool for the rules—and that rules are actually pretty helpful!In Buzby and the Grumblebees, newly reformed rule-follower Buzby receives a visit from his niece Beebee and his nephew Buddy. But the two little bees are full of bad behavior, and Buzby enlists the help of Hermie and his friends to show the kids all kinds of bugs behaving badly. And the two quickly see how uncomfortable things become for everyone when bugs don’t get enough sleep or clean up after themselves. Soon Beebee and Buddy decide that behaving in the hive is the only way to fly!
Tommy Nelson is giving away one copy of BEEhaving is B-E-S-T to a reader of Homegrown Learners. To enter, simply leave me a comment answering this question:
Reader Comments (16)
I usually just reward following the rules with a hug and positive comment or a high five!
Most of the time we give praise and encouragement, but if he does something exceptionally over the top good he gets a sticker on his reward card on our chore chart, when he fills up the card he gets to do something special.
All kinds of ways: ice cream, hugs, kisses, praises, they get to choose the next activity, etc. Thanks for the opportunity to win!
Praise and encouragement. I try to up this if I've been harping on bad behavior mostly.
Hmmm. . . really noticing the good behavior--looking in my girls' eyes and really noticing what they've done. Thanks for the chance to win, Mary!
I reward my children with praise! With 4 children under 9 y.o. this DVD would be a great asset at our home. Just today we learned to be flexible and thankful when Grandma fixed us lunch and we stayed home instead of going out to eat which is the norm. Talk about a big lesson learned!
We reward them with praise and special activities with us.
Verbal praise, encouragement, and the lack of a punishment.
How do you reward your kids for following the rules and doing the right things?
Truly this subject is near and dear to my heart. We are reading Smooth and easy days by Shafer and we are learning the following the rules and doing the right thing has everything to do with habit. All of us moms love when our children starts eating breakfast, brushing teeth, washing face and making their bed, etc. without being asked anymore. These are good habits, right? However why stop there what about obedience, attention and truthfulness? These are habits that we would desire our children to have through their entire lives? Shafer has a long, long list of all kinds of good habits (they are in her free ebook on www.simplycharlottemason.com) and the book is all of 45 pasges long, so worth the read. So to answer your question we try not to reward our child when he tells the truth, obeys us and other habits such as these. We desire for him to understand that the benefits of these characteristics (habits) is pleasing his heavenly Father. There is more Id like to write just dont have the tiem right now...
We have a "prize bin" (basket) that the kids are allowed to pick something from. We also have a chore chart with allowances attached to it!
I give praise that is very specific instead of just saying, "good job." My kiddos really respond to this.
Wow! I'm sure I am dating myself but the cast has two members from the Carol Burnett Show and one from the Andy Griffith Show. With them in it, it's got to be great! Thanks for sharing!
I AM BEGINNING THE HOMESCHOOLING ENDEAVOR AND HAVE ALREADY SEEN SOME OF THE GRUMBLING YOU WERE REFERRING TO. MY DAUGHTER IS GENERAL VERY WILLING TO LEARN, BUT THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I COULD JUST SQUEEZE HER TO DEATH...LOL!..I AM LOOKING FOR SOME STUDIES ON BEHAVIOR AND THIS SOUNDS PERFECT.
To add on to my comment, praise is something that we also try to do when he obeys. The praise is usually very specific. We still are dealing with whining and grumbling at times.
I give praise, say thank you, give hugs, special treats, and I always look my children in the eyes so they know i'm truely appreciative of the good they've done. I also let my children over hear coversations I have with other people about the good things they've done, or things i'm proud of.
They get praise and hugs. And also we reward with stickers. After so many stickers they get to do something special like go out for ice cream, pick out a small toy etc.